We are all taught not to compare apples to oranges so we start comparing apples to apples. However, the comparison trap is never good even when it is apples to apples. Sadly, it is a trap that a lot of us fall in to! Comparison can lead to 2 things…
1) Feeling not as good as someone else. / You think about what they have that you don’t. Or you think about how much better they are at something than you. We tend to do this with anyone that we think may have a better life than us. We do it with people in our lives, with celebrities and so on. Social media can be a great tool, but too often it is used as the comparison tool. We look at and compare our lives to the highlight reels of other people’s lives on social media. For me, I really struggled with this for a while. As a pastor’s wife and woman in ministry I love to follow and glean from other women that do what I do. However, it got to the point that everything someone was doing that I looked up to, I tried to do. I was trying to be everything! What I was not being was me. Trying to be everyone or anyone else but myself was impossible and it was something I would always fail at. I can only be me. I can only run the race that God has called me to.
2) Feeling better than someone else. / When comparing yourself to others sometimes you may feel like you have a certain area of your life going on a little better than them and it makes you feel “better” than them. You may be more gifted in an area b/c God gave us all different gifts and abilities but comparing to others can lead us to the ride of pride.
Wives constantly compare themselves to other wives, moms constantly compare themselves to other moms, men compare their “successes” to other men’s and it goes on and on.
Comparing either leaves you feeling superior or inferior. Neither are the way God wants to think of ourselves. Comparing does not allow us to focus on the influence that God has given us.
(Romans 12:1-3)And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. 2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.3 Because of the privilege and authority[c] God has given me, I give each of you this warning: Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us.
How do we stop comparing? We follow the instructions in Romans. Don’t copy, be transformed, let God change the way you think, God has a plan just for you, don’t think you are better than you are, evaluate yourselves by the faith God has given us and not by others!!
You are an original, a masterpiece! There is nothing you an be compared to. Quit trying to be a cheap copy of someone else!